Transiting Neptune square natal Neptune is a generational transit that we all experience at around the age of 42. It’s known as a transit of disillusionment and, along with the other generational transits that occur around the same period (Pluto square Pluto, Uranus opposed Uranus and the second Saturn opposed Saturn transit), it is largely responsible for what is commonly referred to as the midlife crisis. Ah joy :)
Neptune is a very slow mover and takes approximately 164 years to orbit the Sun. Therefore we only experience a small number of significant transits from this planet during our life time. Exactly how many times, and in what way, Neptune triggers your chart will depend on where your other planets are placed in relation to Neptune. For example, if your natal Neptune is in the 2nd House and then you have a cluster of planets all in the lower half of the chart then Neptune will conjunct these one by one over the course of your life.
Personally, Neptune square Neptune has knocked me to my knees and left me feeling very humbled. With my natal Neptune in Sagittarius my dreams have always been expansive, idealistic, even grandiose. I’m the kind of person people smirk at during an argument thinking, and sometimes even saying, ‘you’re such an idealist.’ However I have a Capricorn Sun which means I get things done and with Neptune in my 7th House I’ve never had trouble finding collaborators in my dreams of a better world.
But now I find myself joining the cynics and it’s terribly depressing. I ask myself whether all the work I’ve done counts for anything at all, and whether I was deluded in thinking that any one of us can really make a difference in the scheme of things. It’s not a nice place to be believe me; I vastly prefer the rosy coloured glasses that had me believing we can really be the change we wish to see.
Neptune square Neptune has been particularly difficult for me because I’m exhausted by the huge changes brought about by the transit of Pluto over my conjoined Sun, Moon and Venus in Capricorn, and the current convergence of Saturn and the Lunar South Node over the same sensitive point. I feel like I’ve working so hard to build a meaningful life and now Neptune seems to be saying ‘what’s the point.’
Neptune square Neptune can kick your butt, but only if you let it
We can under estimate Neptune I think. Generally people tend to fear the transits of Uranus and Pluto far more, however as the Lord of the watery realm Neptune works slowly but insidiously to wash away our foundations. We can be left completely adrift as everything we stood for, everything we stood upon, is gradually dissolved beneath us.
Escapism is a typical coping mechanism during Neptune square Neptune. Personally I’ve found myself more than a little addicted to audio books, a medium I never bothered with until I had children. Now I find myself consuming several books every week, listening as I do the house work. It takes me into another world and I can forget my feelings of discontent and boredom. However escaping from my feelings doesn’t make them go away and ultimately I know that they will have to be faced.
Facing up to our feelings can look different for each of us. It all depends on what works for you. Some people journal, others meditate, take up yoga or work with a therapist. Personally I find my local womens circle an incredibly grounding space for working with difficult emotions and an anchor to reality when these emotions start to get the better of me.
Because it’s important to remember how deceptive Neptune can be. It may indeed seem that all our dreams are unattainable but is it really true? Neptune square Neptune, like any transit, will come to an end and with it will come a new clarity. Perhaps I will never be quite as idealistic as I once was but I will emerge with a more practical outlook and, hopefully, a better chance of achieving my goals.
In my chart transiting Neptune square Neptune ends with Neptune conjuncting my Midheaven in April 2020. At the same time it will sextile my Sun, Moon and Venus, who by that stage will be done with both Pluto and Saturn. Five years of extremely challenging transits will finally be over, transits that I know have brought me far, but that I will be very happy to see the back of! Yes, this too shall pass and in its place will emerge something new and beautiful.
Are you in the middle of Neptune square Neptune too?
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For more, check out this post on Neptune square Neptune from Moonkissd Astrology.
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