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Neptune square Neptune: please don’t burst my bubble

Neptune square Neptune

Transiting Neptune square natal Neptune is a generational transit that we all experience at around the age of 42. It’s known as a transit of disillusionment and, along with the other generational transits that occur around the same period (Pluto square Pluto, Uranus opposed Uranus and the second Saturn opposed Saturn transit), it is largely responsible for what is commonly referred to as the midlife crisis. Ah joy :)

Neptune is a very slow mover and takes approximately 164 years to orbit the Sun. Therefore we only experience a small number of significant transits from this planet during our life time. Exactly how many times, and in what way, Neptune triggers your chart will depend on where your other planets are placed in relation to Neptune. For example, if your natal Neptune is in the 2nd House and then you have a cluster of planets all in the lower half of the chart then Neptune will conjunct these one by one over the course of your life.

Personally, Neptune square Neptune has knocked me to my knees and left me feeling very humbled. With my natal Neptune in Sagittarius my dreams have always been expansive, idealistic, even grandiose. I’m the kind of person people smirk at during an argument thinking, and sometimes even saying, ‘you’re such an idealist.’ However I have a Capricorn Sun which means I get things done and with Neptune in my 7th House I’ve never had trouble finding collaborators in my dreams of a better world.

But now I find myself joining the cynics and it’s terribly depressing. I ask myself whether all the work I’ve done counts for anything at all, and whether I was deluded in thinking that any one of us can really make a difference in the scheme of things. It’s not a nice place to be believe me; I vastly prefer the rosy coloured glasses that had me believing we can really be the change we wish to see.

Neptune square Neptune has been particularly difficult for me because I’m exhausted by the huge changes brought about by the transit of Pluto over my conjoined Sun, Moon and Venus in Capricorn, and the current convergence of Saturn and the Lunar South Node over the same sensitive point. I feel like I’ve working so hard to build a meaningful life and now Neptune seems to be saying ‘what’s the point.’

Neptune square Neptune can kick your butt, but only if you let it

We can under estimate Neptune I think. Generally people tend to fear the transits of Uranus and Pluto far more, however as the Lord of the watery realm Neptune works slowly but insidiously to wash away our foundations. We can be left completely adrift as everything we stood for, everything we stood upon, is gradually dissolved beneath us.

Escapism is a typical coping mechanism during Neptune square Neptune. Personally I’ve found myself more than a little addicted to audio books, a medium I never bothered with until I had children. Now I find myself consuming several books every week, listening as I do the house work. It takes me into another world and I can forget my feelings of discontent and boredom. However escaping from my feelings doesn’t make them go away and ultimately I know that they will have to be faced.

Facing up to our feelings can look different for each of us. It all depends on what works for you. Some people journal, others meditate, take up yoga or work with a therapist. Personally I find my local womens circle an incredibly grounding space for working with difficult emotions and an anchor to reality when these emotions start to get the better of me.

Because it’s important to remember how deceptive Neptune can be. It may indeed seem that all our dreams are unattainable but is it really true? Neptune square Neptune, like any transit, will come to an end and with it will come a new clarity. Perhaps I will never be quite as idealistic as I once was but I will emerge with a more practical outlook and, hopefully, a better chance of achieving my goals.

In my chart transiting Neptune square Neptune ends with Neptune conjuncting my Midheaven in April 2020. At the same time it will sextile my Sun, Moon and Venus, who by that stage will be done with both Pluto and Saturn. Five years of extremely challenging transits will finally be over, transits that I know have brought me far, but that I will be very happy to see the back of! Yes, this too shall pass and in its place will emerge something new and beautiful.

Are you in the middle of Neptune square Neptune too?

Please share your experiences. I’d love to hear how you’re going. Or if you’re not sure and want to get started reading your own chart check out my free mini lessons.

For more, check out this post on Neptune square Neptune from Moonkissd Astrology.

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6 Comments on Neptune square Neptune: please don’t burst my bubble

  1. Hi Faith, I was born a day before you and have a similar chart so it’s interesting to hear your experience of the transits. I’ve always identified with the Mercury/Neptune opp. Jupiter more than the Capricorn planets so having things dissolve and drifting feels kind of natural. And that’s been my experience: all plans and goals just fizzle out without leaving much to show for them. The Neptune sextiles I felt as quite positive, bringing a softening (following the brutal Pluto transit), focus on feelings and acceptance. Rather than trying to make things happen I’m having to surrender and make use of what comes my way. And what’s coming is Pluto/Saturn conjunct my Descendant next year… It’s also interesting that the Neptune transits are happening just as our progressed Sun is about to enter Pisces. Overall, my life is overflowing with yin energy that I connect with Neptune and Pisces.

    • It’s great to hear your perspective Eva, considering how similar our charts are. Your point about surrendering is spot on – I wish I could just remember that instead of struggling so hard!

  2. Greetings Faith! I appreciate you sharing this information on how we may experience the natal Neptune in Sag to transiting Pisces Neptune square. I’m in the middle of this transit myself and definitely relate to having it described as: “a transit of disillusionment”, “midlife crisis”, “Neptune square Neptune has knocked me to my knees and left me feeling very humbled”…

    With my natal Neptune in Sag, too, I had been an idealist for quite a while, and then – as the Neptune to Neptune square ensued, along with Pluto to Pluto square and the approaching Uranus to Uranus exact opposition in my chart – my rosy colored glasses cracked considerably, “washing away many of the foundations I had developed in my first forty years” of life.

    At this point, I’m still finding that while “it may indeed seem all our dreams are unattainable”, life keeps showing me that nothing is absolute. So, I agree with your assessment that “Neptune square Neptune, like any transit, will come to an end and with it will come a new clarity. Perhaps I will never be quite as idealistic as I once was but I will emerge with a more practical outlook and, hopefully, a better chance of” enjoying my life whatever it brings. I guess the key is to hold up through the storm in order to see the light of day at the end of this tunnel.

    So, I’ve come to the same conclusion Eva has – relax and follow the path of least resistance. Let go of whatever illusions have kept me blind for so long and (willingly) accept the transformation that life demands I undergo, with the help of the current yin energy. Of course, the whole process is not working out for me as painlessly as I would have wished it to, but it appears to be a necessary feature of the entire “game.”

    • Hello dear Anahit, it has taken me some time to respond to your message as life has not been easy on me of late, but coming back to it now I am really resonating with your description of the Neptune square experience. Being close in age we are experiencing several of the same transits and I find it really helps to share our conclusions on how to work with these energies. I notice I always seem to come back to the same basic key principle: surrender. Let go and accept the transformation that is occurring within you.

  3. Hi. I had last years Neptune opposing my moon, and then Neptune squaring my sun. Which made me feel exactly as you described. Extreme boredom, disolution of ego and sometimes emotionally death…
    This year starts my Neptune square Neptune and I wonder if it will be just 2 years more of the same meaningless living…
    I had also last years Pluto square Pluto and Pluto square ASC…
    Just trying to keep breathing…

  4. thank you so much for writing this, am about to have neptune square neptune and really relate to the exact feelings you have described,

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