You’ve probably heard of ‘gardening by the Moon’, of planting at New Moon and weeding as the Moon wanes, but what about parenting by the Moon?
Many people think the lunar cycles are reflected everywhere in the ebb and flow of daily life. Last year I began to notice distinct synchronicities between the Moon and my life. I would suddenly get the unusual urge to clean out kitchen cupboards and spend the whole weekend tidying and organising, only to check my emails on Monday and find that the Moon was in Virgo, and that was exactly the sort of thing one ought to be doing. I started paying more attention, and even deliberately allowing time to sort and organise my messy life when the Moon was spending her 50 odd hours in the virgin sign.
This weekend was another-such time. Without giving it much thought I went about my usual Friday night routines only to find my six-year-old on the floor of the room, sorting through her paperwork! Of course, I thought, this is time to do those things I usually put off. I began cleaning the bath, and my daughter came into the bathroom and requested that she be allowed to clean the bath too, please. Sure, why not? It occurred to me then that ‘parenting by the Moon’ might be quite a good idea.
We can clean and sort when the Moon is in Virgo, balance and harmonise with Libra, challenge and explore depth with Scorpio, and do magic spells to quell our fears. We can philosophise with Sagittarius, love nature, and sleep under the stars, then be ambitious with Capricorn, make plans and climb hills. We can dream and paint under a Pisces Moon, then network and socialise with Aquarius while we explore radical new ideas and new technologies.
When the Moon goes into Aries we can start new projects and race each-other. With the Moon inTaurus we can lounge around together and eat decadent foods. With Gemini we might need to play on a trampoline and write each-other notes, and as parents we can allow ourselves to be more child-like and laugh. Then, when the Moon goes into Cancer we can nurture ourselves especially with extra cuddles and warm milk before we emerge, a few days later, under a Leo Moon, to be dramatic, create, perform, put on a show and applaud.
I think I might be onto something. Of course it’s not just the sign but also the phase of the moon that can be considered when parenting by the Moon. A new Moon is for new beginnings, then the energy builds as she waxes. When the Moon is full the energy is manic and intense, it needs an outlet. As she wanes we take stock and take special care of ourselves, and take respite especially in the time right before new Moon, the dark Moon. This last Moon phase, before it is new again, is a time in which to take extra caution and care. We often find ourselves sensitive and may easily fall into unnecessary conflicts and other destructive behaviour.
If relationships between parents are strained, the dark Moon is a good time to avoid contact as much as possible and reasonable. Be mindful and gentle with ourselves and others, and nourish our bodies and minds with the things we love and are good for us, in this pre-dawn phase of the month. A similar strategy is wise to adopt during any time when the Moon is void of course – that is, the period between the last aspect the Moon makes to a planetary body and when it enters the next sign.
Transits of the Moon to our natal chart are short, but they tend to stir up emotions wherever they can. It may be helpful to take note of heightened emotional states and where the Moon is at that time of the month in our charts and our children’s. Is it on your natal Pluto or squaring your daughter’s Sun, or opposing your son’s Moon, for instance? The Moon moves too quickly to take all this in all the time, but learning these rhythms can help us understand our own emotional cycles of filling and emptying, or conflict and joy and despair. There are infinite possibilities for noticing and growing awareness where the Moon is concerned.
Last night I asked my daughter what she thought we should do under the Libra full Moon. “I think we should put on really cool clothes and do make-up and maybe we can have a fashion show” the girl with the Libran ascendant replied!
Isa Ritchie writes on symbolism, story, archetypes and alchemy at her website Living in the Forest. She is a regular contributor at Insight Astrology.
Have you tried Parenting by the Moon?
If you are a parent have you noticed that the Moon affects your children’s moods and their way of being in the world? How do you respond to this? Is parenting by the Moon something you find useful or interesting? What techniques have you devised to keep track of the constantly shifting cycles of the Moon?