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Venus and Mars: the cosmic dance of action and attraction

Venus and Mars Image created by Good Fon.

There are two powerful forces within us and they are symbolised by Venus and Mars. These two planets literally dance together as they orbit the Sun, intersecting one another’s orbital paths. This is because Venus orbits between 38 million km and 108 million km from the Sun and while Mars orbits between 55.7 million km and 228 million km. You can imagine their paths crossing and passing continuously as they dance.

When Venus and Mars dance, they touch our natal planets continuously as they pass by in transit. As they pass they generate a constant shifting energy between tension and harmony that is a perfect reflection of a relationship between a man and a women.

Venus and Mars take 225 and 687 days respectively to orbit the Sun. This compares to the orbit time of their neighbours: 88 days for Mercury and 12 years for Jupiter.

Venus and Mars in the birth chart

Venus and Mars are both tightly bound up with our sexuality. Our natal Venus shows what we find attractive in a woman and what we perceive as beautiful. It gives us our sense of harmony and artistic flair. Mars shows us exactly how our sexual energy plays out, for example is it aggressive or passive? It also shows how physically energetic we are.

Masculine and feminine don’t necessarily correlate with male and female. Just because you’re a man doesn’t mean you’re more masculine than your sister. It all depends on each person’s birth chart and the overall balance between the four elements, Earth and Water being feminine, and Air and Fire being masculine. It also depends on the placement of natal Venus and Mars. For example a man with Leo Venus and Pisces Mars is unlikely to be macho, and may indeed prefer his feminine partners more aggressive.

Another way of looking at this is to think of these two energies as yin and yang, the dark and light, the positive and negative magnetic polarities of a magnet. This energy manifests itself on many levels of reality, in our societies, families, in nature and in our own beings.

Venus and Mars in transit

As Venus and Mars pass in relation to us, they energise our own centres of masculine and feminine energy, giving us rhythms of rest and action. Our libido is closely tied up with this dance, as is our levels of motivation, stress, hormones, and even our sleep, although this is also closely bound up with the cycles of the Moon.

You can see the dances of Venus and Mars below. Notice how they move in a steady, beautifully balanced pattern. Imagine these two cycles overplayed, so that the two planets were moving in relation to one another but never actually touching, just as the opposing sides of two powerful magnets cannot touch.

Orbit of MarsOrbit of Venus

Observe the energy of Venus and Mars in your own life. When do you feel active, outgoing and energetic? When do you feel peaceful, nurturing and inspired? Look to see where Venus and Mars as in relation to your birth chart and how this matches how you feel.

Tracking the transits of Venus and Mars

You can learn to track the transits of the planets in three easy steps:

  1. Look to see what house the planet is passing through in your birth chart. This shows the area of your life where the planet is most active.
  2. Look to see which sign the planet is passing through. This gives an archetypal colour to the way the Planet operates.
  3. Notice if the planet is transiting over any planet in your birth chart. This planet’s energy will be strongly activated and take on the colour and quality of the transiting planet.
  4. Take a closer look to see if the transiting planet aspects any planets or points in your birth chart. The quickest way to assess aspects is to look for an equilateral triangle or a square formation between planets in your chart. This will roughly show squares, trines and oppositions.

Download my free ebook The Language of Astrology to learn how to read your own birth chart and follow the transits. If you don’t have a birth chart yet you can generate one for free at

How the transits of Venus and Mars affect our relationships

So back to Venus and Mars: when we look at the transits as they affect our relationships with our partner or mate we can see the energies of repulsion and attraction very clearly. How often do you go to bed feeling really intimate with your lover and then the next morning wish desperately to be alone. Our energies can shift without any apparent reason.

Becoming attuned to this shifting energy in both ourselves and in the other, while also realising that the shifts in perception are temporal and change constantly, we can become more relaxed with our own repeating cycles of change. We can be more understanding of our partners and ourselves. We can also learn to own and love our dark side, the energy, either male or female, that we have disowned, and that we have disowned in our partner.

The cycles of Venus and Mars mirror our own cycle of libido, its ebbs and flows. Venus shows how attractive we feel and indeed are, while Mars shows action towards that which we desire.

Venus and Mars are here to teach us about polarity, and they help us to understand that one requires the other. We cannot have dark without light, nor action without reaction. They are inseparable.

If you’re looking to improve your personal relationships through astrology check out Cristina’s course Love Align which is all about understanding your own personal natal dynamics, so that you can manifest happier, healthier relationships.

How do you experience Venus and Mars in your own life?

2 Comments on Venus and Mars: the cosmic dance of action and attraction

  1. Hi Faith, Thankyou for your insights. I was born with Venus in Cancer and Mars in Pisces. Is this a soppy cuddly watery fantasy?! Would I need a partner with Earth energies in the mix to sail the love boat home?! Blessings. Elizabeth.

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